Commitment

By now, on this second day of 2008, millions of "New Year's Resolution" has already been discarded for lack of commitment. Commitment. That is the word for today. What is so scary about that word that a lot of people run from it at the first chance given? Is it fear of losing a part of yourself that causes us break so many of these ill-conceived promises.

I believe the fear of commitment can be traced back to an earlier time in almost, if not all, people. The ones who raise children have a tremendous task as they nurture young skulls full of mush down the road of acceptable behavior and morality. Sometimes there is a tendency to become overzealous in the guidance of these children. When that happens the child is likely to grow up with a perverted sense of self. When you do not feel good about yourself you tend to abuse yourself mentally and to cover up your abuse you begin to take out your frustration on other around you. It is a vicious circle of self incrimination and the inability to "connect" with others, therefore, although you can have superficial relations you tend to not be one who can commit because of your fear of doing wrong. That brings us back to the way you were raised. A constant, negative bombardment from the ones who are supposed to instill worth tend to make you think of yourself as not worthy, therefore you stop well short of commitment in most situation, whether it is life in general or commitment to another person, like for instance your marriage vows.

Those who have this fear of commitment tend to leave insincere and lonely lives.

My Novels:

Write To Murder . . . http://www.lulu.com/content/956621

Margaret and David: A Love Story . . . http://www.lulu.com/content/1072842

My Mother's Revenge . . . http://www.lulu.com/content/1132742